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Did you and your spouse recently experience a great loss, say the death of one of your children? Maybe you have been able to handle the grief yourself. Things like a busy work schedule and your strong faith might be seeing you through this very difficult time. However, maybe your spouse is not handling the death of your child as well as you are.
Of course, there are different degrees of pain, and there are different ways to grieve. But, you may be very concerned that your spouse's grieving has become a serious mental crisis. If that's the case, from things you can do yourself to arranging for psychiatric care, here are some ideas that might help.
Things You Might Try Yourself
Are you the type of person who can shut away pain by simply putting it away? Perhaps if you just don't talk about the death of your child, you don't have to face the pain. That might work for you, but your spouse might have a totally different need. Even though it might be extremely hard for you, let your spouse express every emotion he or she is feeling.
See if you can get your spouse to tell you things like his or her favorite memories of times spent with your child. Maybe your spouse wants to just tell about what he or she saw in your child's future, and the sadness that is felt because that won't be happening now. Will it help to pull out photographs of your child, maybe family photographs, so that you can talk together about those happier days?
In other words, don't be afraid to open the doors of verbal communication. As a bonus, you might find yourself feeling better, too,
Seek Psychiatric Care Services
Maybe you have tried everything you can think of to help your spouse deal with this tremendous loss, yet you haven't made significant progress. If that's the case, would you consider seeking psychiatric care services for your spouse?
A psychiatrist will have the training and the experience to know how to better help your spouse. He or she can detect very serious things, like your spouse's contemplation of taking his or her own life in order to be with your deceased child. The psychiatrist will know which medications might help, even on a temporary basis.
At first, your spouse might be placed in a psychiatric care facility so that he or she can have constant care. As time passes and he or she progresses, outpatient psychiatric care might take the place of residency care. Then you can look forward to a time when the psychiatric visits are only weekly, then monthly. And, finally, your spouse may not need to attend psychiatric sessions again.Share